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The face to face Ask Me course is a one-day course. There is no independent or preparatory learning required.
We ask that where possible, you only register for a course if you are confident, you will be able to attend the scheduled training date. We appreciate things can come up unexpectedly. Where this happens we will be as flexible as we can and if we are able to offer you an alternative date, we will do so. Sometimes this may not be possible, and the co-ordinator will then discuss with you what your options are. Access to the ongoing support (Facebook groups, peer support, meet ups, newsletters) will depend on successful completion of the course.
Just yourself and any snacks or drinks you may wish to bring! We will provide pens, paper and all training materials. We usually provide a buffet lunch on training dates and the co-ordinator will advise you if this is not the case.
Please note, the course is for over 18s so we ask that children are not present for the training sessions as you may not feel all conversations are appropriate for them to hear. We are usually able to reimburse childcare costs accrued to attend the course. Please speak to the co-ordinator if this applies. We may in some circumstances be able to provide childcare. If you would prefer that we provide childcare, please get in touch so that we can discuss this further.
Whilst we use a PowerPoint, this is always verbally explained and expanded on by the co-ordinator so it is not essential to be able to read them. We sometimes provide some accompanying optional reading materials to attendees. We can provide these in an electronic format or the co-ordinator can share their content to you on a one to one basis. If you require an alternative format, please get in touch and we will endeavour to provide this for you. Some group exercises are based on written case studies which the group discuss collectively and then feedback verbally. The co-ordinator will be happy to go through this verbally with any groups who would prefer this. To judge the level of reading needed, an example of one of our case studies can be found here. There is an evaluation form that we ask attendees to complete but we can arrange to do this verbally if you prefer.
The course itself is delivered face to face although joining instructions are usually sent via email and we usually ask people to register online. Additionally we ask those who complete the course to fill in a short online survey once a month to let us know what they have been up to, advertise our events online, and share resources online. We can however provide these materials in printed format on request, please speak to your co-ordinator.
Absolutely! Anyone can participate in the Ask Me scheme whether they are a survivor or not and many participants are survivors themselves. However there are some things you may want to consider before proceeding. If you are currently experiencing abuse you may wish to think about whether it is safe for you to do the course now. For example, if the person who is abusing you was to find out, would this put you at risk? If you’re unsure, please get in touch with us before registering. If you are currently experiencing abuse, please know that help and support is available through our 24 hours Live Fear Free helpline. Even if your abuse is historic and you are safe now, you might want to consider how you might feel on a course discussing abuse. Whilst we have done everything we can to make the course as safe and supportive as possible, the course is not a therapeutic or support course and for some people, it may not be the right time for them to participate.
We ask that those in a romantic or intimate relationship attend the course separately. This is to ensure all parties have a safe space to explore the content and if they identify they may be experiencing abuse, they are able to access support safely. Should you and a friend wish to register for the same course you are more than welcome to do so! Please note however that spaces are allocated on a first come first served basis and that on the course we encourage people to complete activities with different attendees throughout the course. We do this so attendees have the opportunity to learn from each other and meet new people. You will have plenty of opportunity to socialise with your friend throughout the day however if being separated would be a problem for you, please let us know in advance so we can discuss the most supportive way to proceed.
Please be mindful that Ask Me is a community based initiative and aims to help us give a better response as community members rather than informing our job role. You are of course welcome to use what you’ve learned from Ask Me in your workplace or career as appropriate. However Ask Me is not intended to give you the skills to hold any particular job role, is not intended as an endorsement or demonstration of competency to employers and does not replace or supercede any workplace training that you may be required to attend as part of your role. To maintain the community focus and to ensure a diversity of voices in the room, we will normally limit any individual organisation to 2 places per course and ask that those attending have an interest in activism in their communities to help end violence against women and girls. (Please note – There is a similarly named scheme called Ask and Act, and there is also a Trusted Professional course option, for public sector workers which is wholly separate and more information about that scheme can be found in the Training Area.)
For any other questions about Ask Me, or if you’d like to discuss any of the above further, please email us at [email protected]