Are you worried about domestic abuse or think you may be in an unhealthy relationship? Help and advice is available. Sometimes it is difficult to say what is on your mind but talking to someone can help you cope with difficulties.
It’s important to think about keeping safe and safety planning.
Who can you talk to?
There are a lot of places to get support and advice on domestic abuse, such as talking to
It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and finding the right person you feel comfortable with is important too. Finding the right time or words can be difficult so you might want to write down what you want to say. Here are a few suggestions:
I’m really worried about my mum and feel scared when the fighting starts
I’m finding it hard to concentrate in school because I’m worrying about problems at home
Some children and young people tell us it’s sometimes easier talking to someone who doesn’t know them.
Domestic abuse is about one person misusing power and control over another; it is not normal and never okay. If you are in a relationship with someone, you should feel:
If your relationship leaves you feeling:
it’s possible you are experiencing domestic abuse.
Sometimes domestic abuse can be hard to see, especially if you have strong feelings for that person. It can take many forms. It could be physical, emotional, financial, and sexual.
Some examples could be:
If you have selected a lot of ‘yes’ answers to the questions, and someone you know demonstrates a lot of those traits, this is an indicator that they may need to consider the impact of their behaviour on others. It is important to point out that we all have a tendency to carry out some of these behaviours, whether done infrequently or in a light hearted way. However, if they are being used to control another person, this could be an indicator of an abusive relationship.
Safety Comes First
If you or someone you know is in an abuse relationship there are few things you can do: